I am a … boy. I am in love with a … girl. She informed about us at her place and their parents rejected me as I am not born in a … family. Please tell me a way such that I can convince her parents for our marriage. I chant the Gayatri mantra daily and I pray all Gods and respect all religions and practices. Please help me Swamiji. Your advice will be of great help and encouragement for me. Please excuse me if I have made a wrong question or questioned in a wrong manner. As you can understand my love for her and my respect towards her parents and their feelings please help me in this regard.
MARRIAGE IS SOMETHING THAT MAKES A TRIANGLE BONDAGE, BETWEEN COUPLE, AND BOTH THE FAMILIES. ALL THEY SHOULD ACCEPT AND PERFORM IT IN A MOOD OF JOY. IT SHOULD NOT BE DONE WITH FORCE WITH SADNESS.
HENCE, IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO ENTERTAIN LOVE WITH PROPER PERSONS OF UNDERSTANDING. BOTH BOY AND THE GIRL SHOULD UNDERSTAND THE SAMPRADAYAM AND SYSTEM OF THE FAMILIES. UNFORTUNATELY NOW A DAYS IT IS MISSING AND THUS CREATING DEPRESSION AMONG THE CHILDREN AND THE PARENTS.
ONE CAN BECOME VAISHNAVITE IF SANKHA AND CHAKRA IS TAKEN ALONG WITH MANTHRAM FROM A PROPER GURU. THEN, A VAISHNAVITE WILL NOT WORSHIP ALL THE DEVATHAS BUT RESPECTS ALL THE SAMPRADAYAS AND DEVATHAS TOO. HE WORSHIPS ONLY VISHNU AND HIS PARIVARAM.
ACCEPTING BOTH THE PARENTS IS VERY MUCH IMPORTANT. SO YOU TRY TO INFORM YOUR PARENTS FIRST AND THEN ASK THEM TO APPROACH HER PARENTS. LET HER ALSO APPROACH HER PARENTS AND CONVINCE THEM TO DISCUSS THE ISSUE WITH YOUR PARENTS. IF THAT IS DONE FIRST, OTHER THINGS MAY BE SORTED OUT SOON.
If the parents are not able to come to an understanding, then we suggest you and the girl also to be restrained yourself from the proposal of marriage.