We are from Columbus,OH. We came to know that You are gracing the Hindu temple in Cincinnati and performing the Srinivasa Kalyanam. We are very much interested to participate but we dont know whether we can participate because my husband’s father expired in Nov,2005. We were told last year not to observe any festivals or perform any special poojas like Satyanarayana Vratha for a year. Does this hold good for Kalyanam too? Even if we cant perform the pooja, can we atleast watch it and accept Your Blessings? Some told us not to accept “Satari” at the temple and some told there are no such restrictions. We dont know what to follow and what not to follow. We humbly request You to kindly enlighten us.
Why the restrictions till one year after one’s father died? As a vishnavite, when i can enter into temple and eligible to perform pooja ? Please forgive me if i asked an irrilevant question?
WE ARE HAPPY FOR YOUR INTEREST. ACCORDING TO VAISHNAVA SAMPRADAYAM, AFTER 13 DAYS OF THE CEREMONY, IT IS PERFORMED “PARAMAPADA UTSAVAM”. IT THAT IS DONE THAT DEPARTED SOUL, CHILDREN OF THE DEPARTED SOUL, CAN GO TO TEMPLES AND DO ALL SIMPLE PUJAS WITHOUT ANY HESITATION. MANY PEOPLE WON’T DO THAT UTSAVAM, THEY
NEED TO OBSERVE THE RESTRICTION OF NOT GOING TO TEMPLE AND DO PUJAS OR ANY FUNCTIONS ETC., FOR ONE YEAR. WHICH THEY CALL AS “SAMVATSARA SU:THAKAM” WE THINK THAT RULE MAY BE OBSERVED UPTO ATLEAST 6 MONTHS IN OTHER COUNTRIES BY INDIANS.
FOR VAISHNAVITES, ONE YEAR RESTRICTION IS NOT THERE TO DO THE PUJA, WHICH IS A REGULAR ACTIVITY, AFTER DEMISE OF PARENTS. FINISHING THE PARAMA PADO:TSAVAM WITH ‘IYAL GOSTI’ ON 13TH DAY, CLEARS THE ‘A:SOUCHAM’ AND MAKES ELIGIBAL FOR NITYA KARMA. PUJA IS ALSO ONE AMONG NITYA KARMAS. SO IT HAS TO BE DONE. EVEN IF
IT IS A TEMPLE, ONE CAN GO FOR DARSAMAN AND FOR SELF PUJA, IF HE IS A PUJARI. KALYANAS AND SPECIAL CELEBRATIONS SHOULD NOT BE DONE.
EVEN THAT IS TO SHOW ONE’S SORROW ONLY. BUT, FOR NON VAISHNAVITES, THEY DO NOT DO THE PARAMA PADOTSAVAM, 1YEAR A:SOUCHAM WILL BE THERE, SO THEY CANNOT GO TO TEMPLE AND DO THE PUJA.